Excerpts from the Conclusion of the Book

In Conclusion

I have done a lot of things in my life that I am so very ashamed of and yet I can say that I wouldn't change a thing. For everything that I have gone through, it is what has brought me to the place of serenity now. It was the sleepless nights running from the law and doing dirt that made me appreciate peaceful sleep. It was sleeping with every Tom, Dick, and Harry to make me look back and say, "Where are they now"? What have they brought to my life outside of five minutes of pleasure? When the reality is the everlasting greatest love is from God and within me. It was making it, even after all of my poor life choices and becoming the strong woman that I am today. I would not be who I am today had I not gone through the fires and the storms that I did. Now do not misunderstand me always take the high road then you won't have to crawl out of the gutter to make something of yourself. By all means if you chose right over wrong the possibilities are endless, but if you do happen to make the wrong choices, life is not over you can make a better you through it all. I always say learn and grow....Negative people have no place in my environment. People who constantly try to put me down or just plain old talk about every body else; these people get shook from my life because I have come to realize that life is much too short to surround oneself with people like this. People who look for negative things to say about others is only creating a smokescreen for their own shortcomings and their issues are not mine. I don't allow people to box me into their ideal of what my life should be.

On Religion

I don't like to argue the bible and I believe that people from all faiths will enter into the kingdom of heaven. Although many will disagree I believe God is so much greater than a denomination. He is so much more forgiving and non-judgmental then we are. He is so much more compassionate than we are. I can't wait to stand in judgment because I know that he already knows everything about me and yet he still loves me. He doesn't hurt with words and actions he even told me to cast not some but all of my troubles upon him. Can you imagine how unselfish that is? Many people believe going to church every Sunday is enough to get them into heaven. I am sure the pastor appreciates it but what do you do when you leave the walls of the church. Do you take off your church face in the car or you do take it off when you get home? Do people really see Christianity in you beyond the walls of the church? Do you treat people as Christ would treat them? Are you evil, conniving, unapproachable and just plain rude to people? If Christ came to a gathering you were having with friends would he be comfortable in your surrounding if you were being yourself? Look, I am guilty of just about most of the above too sometimes. But whenever I feel the urge to judge others, I remember that the sins that I fight everyday are no less than the sins of others. Christians are so quick to judge people that we consider sinners that we distance ourselves so much that we can't even reach the ones that need to be reached. Matthew 7: ¹ Judge Not, that ye be judged, ² For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. To further the scripture in other words; before you take the peck out of my eye, remove the plank from yours first. The sad thing is in most cases the plank is so large you can't even see yourself.

On Relationships

I do not sacrifice what I want in a relationship with a man at all, period end of story. If I am not clear about my wants and desires for my most intimate relationship, how will I know who the wrong one is when he starts laying his game on me?..... If it takes 20 years for me to find the right person to bring me the satisfaction that I need for my life, then I am content enough with loving myself until I do. I refuse to be with a man who has a bad case of the webees (as my pastor says); we bee driving your car, we bee eating my food, we bee running up my bills, we bee sleeping in my bed. Look ladies, if you don't demand the best for your life you will continue to get exactly what you got, nothing. Why would I put myself in a situation that I know from the beginning it is not going to fulfill all of my needs and desires? Why would I start crying and complaining about his trifling behind later in the relationship when your man make over doesn't go the way you thought it would go? Women wake up; you can not change a man. You may be able to camouflage his flaws for a period of time but eventually the mask has to come off and the real him will always reveal itself. You have to decide which flaws you can and can not deal with.....For the woman who love to complain about what their men are and are not doing; shut up, just shut up already. You knew he was busted when you got with him. We have to set the standard for our own lives. No one can make you stay in a relationship; you are the one who makes the call for your life. What are you willing to sacrifice your dignity, self respect, your children, what? If you have no standards then continue to be the doormat that you want to be but shut up about it.

On Life

My people, why do we love to live superficial lifestyles? We love to appear to keep up with the Jones's on Al Bundy's budget. You are so concerned with ballin, flossin, and stuntin that you don't realize just how stupid you really look. Look like a million dollars and you live with your momma.....If you have enough money to spend thousands of dollars on teeth jewelry wouldn't it be more beneficial to help a homeless family and maybe get a new pair of diamond earrings for yourself. Maybe donate your teeth money to buy books for a school in the inner cities. They need those you know. We are such superficial people we can't think beyond the realm of what we want; and from that new self centered generations are born. Generations of selfish children beget the next generation and so on and so on.